Arlene, who has dementia, had chosen an independent living facility in Albuquerque near one of her daughters; however, by the time of the move she had forgotten she had picked the place out herself. After moving into the facility, she was confused and frightened and wouldn’t leave her room. Her children took turns staying with her for weeks, but had to face the fact that Arlene was just not going to assimilate.
Arlene started alternating her time among her five children and eventually settled on a regular rotation among three of her children. Arlene’s daughter Laura, who lives in Edwards, had her mom during the summer months.
Laura learned about The Senior Spot Adult Day Service and started to bring her Mom almost five years ago. At first, Laura stayed at The Spot with her Mom, explaining, “I think she was going to be fine, but if something went wrong, my Mom wouldn’t be able to tell me.” It didn’t take long for Laura to leave her Mom for the entire time.
“Every time I pick Mom up, she is always very happy. It is so good for her to get out of the house — it elevates her confidence,” Laura stated. When her Mom is home more, she becomes more withdrawn and when she goes to The Senior Spot, “There is definitely a noticeable impact.”
“Since I am a caregiver daughter and Mom lives with me, it just helps me feel like I am giving Mom an outlet to be with her peers and to have some social interaction that she really can’t get with my peers,” Laura said. She added, “ It makes me feel warm and fuzzy.”